You’re single and think there must be something wrong with you for not being married. Then you get depressed about it and withdraw from friends and family, when you need them the most. On the outside you may be functioning normally, but inside you’re dying to find love and don’t know where to begin. The choices seem overwhelming and you’re afraid they will lead to a dead end anyway, so you withdraw.

Don’t withdraw or develop destructive habits. Stay positive and engage with people in healthy activities. Get a hobby that will connect you to other people, join a professional club, gym, or go to a church. Do volunteer work regularly.

I had a battle with the single blues for many years. At work, I was fine, but then I would go home and withdraw from everyone. Because of my inactivity, I gained weight which was beginning to affect my health.

Finally, to end my withdrawn state, I starting going regularly to a non-smoking venue that gave country/western dance lessons once a week. I stumbled though the dance lessons and frustrated the instructors with my lack of coordination. The dancing began after the lesson and it took me three months to get the courage to get on the dance floor and dance with someone.

After country dancing for a while, I started learning ballroom dancing with the local ballroom association. They also offered Argentine Tango, so I started taking tango classes.  Later, I found another group that swing danced, so I joined that group.

Reconnecting with people through dance helped me to overcome the single blues. Dance helped me to regain my health and gave me a new confidence. It challenged my mind and body. There are many ways to overcome the single blues, find something that interests you.