When a beginning Argentine Tango leader starts dancing after learning a few figures he can feel frustration in repeating the same ones over and over again.  After several tangos have played, beginners often express the wish they could do more figures.

Being that men are very competitive, they will see other leaders dancing and then think about all the tango figures they can not do.  After seeing a woman and thinking they would like to dance with her, they then realize their limited dance skills and that she is a more experienced dancer.

As a follower, you can dance with twenty different men and have twenty different dances. As a beginning leader, you dance with twenty different women and maybe you only have five figures to do.  To a beginning leader, it can seem like you have the same dance every time.

It takes a lot of control and balance to take those same figures and interpret them into five different figures musically.  Beginning leaders do not realize that to the follower, each leader feels different and provides a new experience for her.

Beginning Argentine Tango leaders think followers want more figures and do not understand that women really want connection and passion. Figures are merely a route to connection and passion. 

It is very difficult for leaders to believe that followers are not interested in figures primarily.  The reason a beginning leader feels like it’s the same dance every time is not because he does not know more figures, but because his connection with followers is so limited that he experiences every follower and every dance as the same.

That’s easy, I am single and enjoy Argentine Tango. I started learning tango about 5 years ago and have continued with only short interruptions to this day.  Learning tango should not be a casual decision as it takes a very long term commitment to become a good tango dancer.  Being single without a regular partner to practice and perfect movements makes learning even harder.

Now for the single part in Single Tango. I’m single by choice and now that I’m older, hopefully I have some wisdom to share. Do I wish that I could go back and make some different decisions in my relationships?  Yes. You are where you are in the present because of your past good and bad decisions. Hopefully, you won’t make the same mistakes in your relationships that I have made and maybe you can learn from my mistakes.